So, no, this isn’t my wedding anniversary (ha!). No. This Summer I am celebrating 7 glorious years of single-parenthood 😀 I know, I can’t quite believe my babies are growing up so quickly! Seems like only yesterday I was patting my growing tummy and suffering from horrific sickness ha! My babies make me incredibly proud, even with the meltdowns and pre-teen eye-rolling!
Being a single parent has certainly changed over the years. I remember choosing to do it alone the first time around 11 years ago; I was in my early 20’s, career-driven and after struggling with fertility issues never in my wildest dreams thought it would be possible to ever carry a child of my own. I look back now and realise how people generally pitied me for being a lone parent, like I somehow was suddenly in a sub-standard class, struggling and unwanted.
Second time around three years later things were slightly better, although perhaps I had toughened up and learnt to take less shit 😉 These days however, times have changed dramatically.
Single mothers are no longer pitied. We are feared, and so we should be! We deal with more before 6am than you will ever know. We fight battle after battle for our babies, and we do it with absolute grace. We take no shit, and walk away from drama queens (you know who you are). No longer does society view us as weak beings, struggling to cope. But now rather as strong, powerful females who to do it all (and more!)
I’m not going to lie and say it’s always easy. It’s not. Especially with my own health issues and raising two wonderfully quirky babies both with varying additional needs. But I can tell you this……..choosing to raise my babies full time single-handedly will win each and every time, hands down 😉
Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©