International Women’s Day…Don’t insult us…

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Now, I’m not against celebrating women, our struggles, successes and how far we have come (and still have to go); but I do take issue with this bizarre need to have one single day a year to acknowledge us.  I actually find it quite insulting on so many levels, rather than celebratory.  And don’t get me started on Mother’s Day either…that’s equally as insulting.

I don’t need a single day a year to recognise the women around me who inspire me each and every single day.

There’s the incredibly brave and young fellow cervical cancer survivor who will never be able to carry her own child, and yet still keeps going.

The enormously strong mother who continues to fundraise for sick kids and work on a busy maternity unit despite her own miracle baby sadly growing his wings at just 8 months old.

The determined single woman fighting tirelessly to get the law changed so that her and other single women can legally become parents using their own eggs via a surrogate and a sperm donor (I can’t even believe that this is even an issue in this day and age!)  She also happens to be a fellow cervical cancer survivor.

The courageous mother who grabbed her kids and fled her abusive ex partner, risking her own life.

And finally the resilient fellow warrior who takes a daily kicking from their own special needs child, and yet gets back up each and every time despite their own chronic health issues.

These are the true women who need celebrating and I feel truly honoured to have them in my life, each and every day.  Not once a year.

 

Inspire

 

Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©

When Life Gives You Lemons….

So this evening’s ‘office’ is an OKish hotel bar, about 40 miles from home.  Staff are friendly; people interesting (I do love a good people watch!).  But why am I here?

So, this isn’t what I was ‘meant’ to be doing this evening.  BUT as a single mum I would have been crazy to pass up an opportunity for my first child free night in a year when my plans got cancelled last minute.  So, me being the spontaneous fidget bum that I am, I hit the road and voila!  Here I am having a much needed night away; turning a disappointment into an opportunity 🙂

This week has been very mixed.  After being soooooo full of energy last week, I knew I was surviving on borrowed adrenaline and that a health crash was imminent (don’t you just LOVE living with a chronic illness!)  So from Wednesday onwards I’ve been feeling pretty crappy, which probably wasn’t helped by insomnia, worrying over another person, and the worsening difficulties of one of my babies bless.

So my week resembled something like this:

Excitement.  Happiness.  Pride.  Frustration.  Uncontrollable (and unappreciated) worry.  Loss.  Exhaustion.  Pain.  Fright.  Relief.  Anger.  Upset.  Pissed off.  Disappointment.  Regret.  The full spectrum in a few short days.  But have I let that stop me from facing the world and just cracking on?  No.  Because I am built to push through (and I’m pretty fantastic at it!).

And it’s for that reason why it’s bloody brilliant that the new Doctor is a WOMAN!!!  She possesses all the required qualities, and more.  I can’t understand why there has been so much backlash?!?!  Well, judging by social media the majority of the negativity has come from men!  Do they feel threatened and inferior??  Well they should do ha!  Now, I’m not really sexist and I do have some truly wonderful male friends (thanks Benjamin for cheering me up today with hidden Micky Flanagan references in your messages!)  But seriously chaps, GET OVER IT!!!  She can’t help being born AMAZING 😉

Anyway….I am going to get back to my people watching and chatting to random tipsy strangers 😉  Have a fantastic weekend folks, whether you are doing ‘proper F**k all’ or going ‘Out Out.’

Amy x

 

Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©

MUMS CHUFFING ROCK TOO YOU KNOW!

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Why is it that most mums very rarely praise themselves???  Now I don’t mean in an unattractive narcissistic manner (we ALL know a few mums like that!); but in a genuine, accomplished way?

Some of you will remember a survey I put out to mums a few months ago, asking various questions about confidence, happiness etc and quite frankly the results backed up what I already suspected.

The majority of the mums who responded felt they lacked confidence; time to themselves; and craved a form of escapism.  Sadly my survey isn’t the only study carried out recently in relation to how mums feel.   A study by Channel Mum found that a WHOPPING 90% of mums asked, admitted to feeling lonely since having children.  That’s a really shocking statistic, and one which I really hope we can improve.

So I’d like to start a little experiment.  For all my wonderful mum-readers (and the wives/partners of the men who read my blogs), I want you to spend just ONE minute thinking about the things that made you proud about YOU this week?  Not your kids; we already know how amazing our babies are and if you are like me you will be constantly praising them and feeling an overwhelming amount of pride in their achievements.  No.  This is about something that YOU and only YOU have achieved this week which makes you feel proud of YOURSELF.   It can be a small achievement or something really life changing!

 

OK, got your list?  Well done!  Now I want you to head on over to my newly created CLOSED FACEBOOK GROUP and share your achievements with other mums – we love to hear other people’s happy news!    In return, I will share two of my own proud achievements from this week – exclusively in the group.  The aim of this is not only to get you thinking more positively and regularly about your OWN achievements, BUT to also connect with other mums in similar situations & to feel less isolated.

See you there!

Amy x

 

Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©