Grateful Reflections…

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Most people will think I absolutely love Christmas, afterall I am forever dancing around to the cheesy Christmas tunes embarrassing my babies and couldn’t wait to dust off the novelty jumpers & awful sickly festive DVDS!  But in reality, Christmas for me is a very difficult time, as it is for many others.

In 2006 I lost my Poppa on Christmas Day, followed by my wonderful Nanny 30th December a few years later.  These two deaths alone made me dread the Christmas period, but as a Mummy you learn pretty bloody quickly to paint that smile on and chuck yourself into the festivities to ensure your babies have the most magical time.

Then in December 2014 I had my cancer treatment.  As a mother it absolutely broke me being so unwell and not able to give my babies the Christmas they would normally have.  But equally, it was probably one of the most touching and special as we weren’t rushing around trying to cram everything in.  I also remember getting a pretty spectacular phone call late Christmas Eve; my wonderful Oncologist wanted to tell me personally I was cancer free.   I will always be indebted to that man for giving me more time with my babies.  Always.  

This year, the lead up to the festive season has been very difficult again, but for reasons I’m not quite ready to share just yet.  But my duty as a Mummy will always be to ensure that my babies have magical memories.  I of all people know how precious these are.

Despite the challenges surrounding Christmas, a text I got from a good friend prompted me to reflect and appreciate some of the wonderful people I have around me.  He called me ‘pigheaded’ because I have a tendency to shut down & not deal with certain shit.  Now, if anyone else would have called me that they would have been firmly told where to go ha!  But I think he is probably the one person who can get away with it & actually make me question my actions.  For that I love him, even if he is a car-nut chav 😉  And I probably don’t tell him enough how incredibly proud of him I am.

Then there is the Northern blonde bombshell who just says it like it is whether I want to hear it or not lol!  And the loveable cocky Glaswegian who drives me absolutely mad, but has a heart of gold.  The ginger swadie who I miss more than he realises.  And my wonderful ‘adoptive’ family who would do anything for my babies & have been there through thick and thin over the past 8 years.   I Love you all x

I think sometimes we get so blinkered fixating on just getting through each day that we forget to step back and appreciate those around us.  And for anyone else who finds Christmas hard, I’m sending you a hug & vodka 😉

And always remember…..

grateful

 

 

Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©

Cancer Recovery Diet – Kick the Beast!

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Being diagnosed with cancer is one of the most devastating times in a person’s life.  The shock, denial, the unknown all take its toll alongside the actual cancer and any treatment itself.  This life-changing event can understandably leave you neglecting your diet whilst you struggle to come to terms with your diagnosis and any treatments that are to follow.  However, cancer treatment places a very high demand on the body and good nutritional health before; during and after cancer treatment is important in your overall road to recovery.

Good nutrition will help:

  • Maintain & improve quality of life
  • Help recovery
  • Fight infection
  • Maintain strength & energy
  • Boost your mood
  • Reduce medication/treatment side effects
  • Stabilise hormones

One of the easiest and simple ways to incorporate healthy nutritional foods into your diet is to follow the basic principles of ‘clean eating.’  This simply means:

  • Choosing whole, natural foods
  • Choosing unrefined foods , unprocessed packaged foods
  • Including some protein, carbohydrate and fat at every meal – a good balanced meal contains everything you need to fuel your body, promote healthy growth & keep the immune system balanced. Try planning your meals around your chosen vegetables, filling half your plate & eating these first 
  • Watching out for salt and sugar
  • Avoid caffeine & even decaffeinated drinks
  • Eating five to six small meals throughout the day – aim for two decent sized main meals & a few hefty snacks
  • Consider following a more plant-based diet such as Vegetarian or Vegan, which can help lower inflammation in the body.
  • Include some saturated fats! For decades we have been told saturated fats are damaging to our health, however more & more research is now disproving this theory.  So much so the Swedish Government is now encouraging its people to eat more of it.  When you eat saturated fats as part of your meal, they slow down absorption so that you can go longer without feeling hungry. In addition, they act as carriers for important fat-soluble vitamins A, D, E and K.  When choosing a saturated fat, aim for:
    • Avocado
    • Coconut oil – this is a key saturated fat to add to your lifestyle as it contains many healthy benefits; such as fighting off infections, improving the skin, decreasing heart disease. It also keeps you feeling fuller for longer & helps aid weight loss!
    • Ensure you include only moderately

Ideally we should all aim to eat organically, especially if recovering from cancer.  However for anyone on a tight budget this isn’t always possible.  Try visiting your local farmer’s market where you will often find fresh produce cheaper than at the supermarket, or purchase meats in bulk and portioning them up for the freezer?  Remember, fresh organic produce is FAR more nutritionally dense, meaning not only is it healthier for you, but it takes longer for the body to break down, thus keeping you fuller for longer on smaller portions!  If your budget cannot stretch to organic all the time, then remember many of the tougher fruits and vegetables contain much lower levels of pesticides, but do give them a good clean before using.  Here are some items which are always best to try & spend your organic budget on:

  • Apples
  • Cherries
  • Bell peppers
  • Peaches & nectarines
  • Cucumbers
  • Raspberries
  • Strawberries
  • Spinach
  • Celery
  • Grapes
  • Pears

Most importantly – BE KIND TO YOURSELF!

 

Amy x

 

Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©

Blown Away! And a Little Bit More xxx

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Wow, I can’t quite believe how many people have taken the time to read my personal blog I posted about my cancer journey last week!   I’m very touched and have received some wonderful messages, thank you xxx.  For those who missed it, you can still read it HERE!

Anyway, in my blog I touched on the notion that the physical cancer treatment was only the very first step to recovery, and often sufferers are left with a whole barrage of both physical and emotional difficulties.  Rather than bore you all with my own lingering complications, I wanted to share a very powerful blog post a fellow friend and cancer warrior wrote recently HERE.

Beth talks very honestly about the guilt and anger that lingers, and the very painful grief she experiences over never being able to carry her own child.  I know she doesn’t feel it right now, but she is an inspirational woman whom I am blessed to call a friend xxx.

 

Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©

Still Kicking Cancer’s Butt – Yay Go Me!

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This afternoon’s ‘office’ (Friday 14th) is sat on the step of the harbour lock at Cardiff Bay, overlooking the water.  Those close to me will know the significance of this place.  I can feel him sat with me, silently…..and then eventually telling me to get off my phone lol!  We miss you xxx.

Anyway…….

What a week!  The lead up to my Oncology check ups are always very difficult.  I tend to shut myself off from people, chuck myself into exercise (when well enough), work, studying, DIY and dance like a buffoon around the kitchen to try to dull the wait.  Sometimes it works better than others. I’m glad today is over for another six months.

Anyway, yes thats me TWO years and 7 months clear of cancer now!!!  I can’t quite believe it!  Wow, a lot has happened in those two years.  That doesn’t mean I’m ‘free’ from the aftermath of cancer mind; people forget that cancer treatment is only the very first step (but that’s another blog post!).  For me I have a love/hate relationship with my cancer.

I hate my cancer because:

  1. Of the unbearable fear it caused incase I had to leave my young kids without their mummy (anyone who knows me, knows I am a complete tigress when it comes to my babies!)
  2. Of the pain my children suffered.  I will never forget the day I had to tell them.
  3. Of the time it stole from our lives.
  4. My decision to have more kids was ripped away.
  5. I’m left with permanent daily complications.
  6. Of the chance of recurrence.
  7. I had to go through major and risky surgery – and suffered a big bleed on the operating table (I thank my wonderful surgeon each day for saving me!)
  8. I’m sometimes angry about the medical neglect and delayed diagnosis.

BUT, I also LOVE my cancer too (odd ‘ey?!) because:

  1. It’s allowed me a freedom I’ve never experienced; like proper life changing freedom!  Hard to explain, but I’m finally free.
  2. I’ve learnt to love hard and proper – never mediocre & no apologies.
  3. I’ve learnt to commit hard and proper to people, work, life – never mediocre.
  4. I can now walk away from things that don’t benefit us.
  5. I’ve learnt to appreciate the simple, thoughtful things & gestures in life.
  6. I’ve mastered the art of saying ‘no’ to people.
  7. I’m stronger, more confident and happier than ever.
  8. It’s also made me more spontaneous, ambitious and adventurous than ever.
  9. I now have a zero tolerance of bullshit. No exceptions.
  10. It’s made me more honest, open and blunt like never before (and I wont apologise for it, sorry!)
  11. It’s taught me that ‘failure’ and ‘adapt’ are two very different things.  I never fail.  Ever.
  12. I will never take a ‘passive’ role in our medical care ever again.
  13. It’s taught me that you are responsible for making your own happiness in life.
  14. It made me both limit and value those people I now welcome into our lives – feel privileged if you are still part of our ‘team.’  We Love you!  For those of you no longer in our lives, it’s probably due to number 9 on this list! *scrolls back up lol!*
  15. Finally, and most importantly; I’m a better mummy to my beautiful babies. (Ok, I was already pretty amazing before, but you know!)

So you see I have FAR more reasons to LOVE my cancer, than to hate it. I know that will seem odd to many people.  Wow, it feels odd to even say it; really wasn’t where this blog was originally heading!  Yes, there are days where I struggle to see the positives it’s given me.  But today isn’t one of those.

Cancer; you may have taken loved ones, but I can guarantee you will never take me…….I’m just too damn awesome for you baby!



Amy Griffiths, Well Being Freedom Services Ltd ©